Growing up as a Chinese-American, I was ingrained in a culture that prioritized productivity, achievements, and fulfilling duties over personal well-being. There was pressure on maintaining a harmonious social façade—the cultural value of "face," which involves maintaining one's reputation and the reputation of one's family—and not burdening others with personal problems.

These cultural norms are not fixed; they can evolve over time. Generational trauma, which involves emotional and psychological wounds passed from one generation to the next, impacts family dynamics and contentment, perpetuating dysfunctional patterns across generations.

It can be quite difficult to interrupt these cycles.

When I realized that these inherited family values weren't really mine, I felt freed from the restrictions that held back my true self. It was challenging to develop my own basic values rather than simply follow those that had been handed down and assumed to be obeyed without question. I worried about how people could react to it and how it might portray me. However, I've come to understand that outside opinions don't really matter, especially after experiencing an unbelievable sense of serenity and fulfillment after bravely embracing my own convictions.

Now, let's explore the idea of trauma itself: The word "trauma" has become more popular recently as a result of increased awareness of mental health and its connection to difficult life situations. This elevated awareness is a step forward in addressing a range of issues. However, there is a viewpoint that contends the term may be used too broadly and may not always correspond with the professional definition of trauma.

Here are some reasons for this viewpoint:

• Everyday Talk: The word "trauma" is sometimes used to describe any negative or uncomfortable experience, potentially diluting its significance.

• Misunderstanding and Shame: People who lack a thorough understanding of trauma may be reluctant to seek assistance out of concern that their experiences may not be "serious" enough to be classified as trauma.

• Learning and Changing: As our knowledge of how trauma affects our mental and emotional health expands, so does our usage and perception of the term.

Engaging in open conversations about trauma fosters a collective understanding of its reality and the importance of mutual support in navigating mental health challenges.

I define trauma as a broad category that includes extremely difficult situations that have long-lasting emotional, mental, and occasionally physical effects. These circumstances frequently make people feel out of control, fearful, or extremely stressed. In my coaching practice, I am highly aware of how trauma can wreak havoc on relationships and one's sense of self.

I couldn't start my own healing until I had done a lot of work on understanding the trauma I still carry. And that's why I'm driven to help others untangle themselves from the pressures that hold them back from embracing who they truly are. I provide a secure, caring environment where healing can begin, and help people move toward a better future.